Love Is Thoughtful

Psalm 139:17-18 How precious also are your thoughts to me.  How vast is the sum of them. If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.


     Thinking is Love.  Love is not emotions that just come out of the blue. Love is busy with thoughts of thinking on how I am going to act to show love to other people.

     When you first met your husband or wife you spent hours on thinking about that person, it became so easy, because you were so in love with them. As you think back on those moments of your first years with each other, I bet you could remember there were times that you had said, I can't stop thinking about you."

     As time, work, kids, go on, things begin to change in each of your life. You now have your husband and your wife and the hunt is over and the impressing each other tends to die down. Can you say that in some of your marriages the spark has died and the thought for love is sometimes only thought about between cleaning the house or doing the dishes , changing the diapers, driving the kids to sports or school, or husbands tend to work over time or even work late, coming home tired and ends up watching TV for entertainment instead of spending time with the spouse or family over dinner. You both start to focus on your own personal desires instead  thoughts of love for each other.

     Adding children to this life of thoughts.  Your thinking changes from being surprised instead of being thoughtful.
Did you know tomorrow is our Anniversary?  Who was that, why didn't you introduce me? You always think about yourself? You know, my world, doesn't revolve around you? These are just a few of the comments that were said in our life before we started bringing alignment in our life. Don't laugh because I know you have a few to share from yours. I'm just being real here, transparent. God does have a divine plan to make things right.

     When your not thoughtful in your love one to another you end up missing divine opportunities with your mate. One of the biggest enemy to a relationship is thoughtfulness in love.

     Lets get  honest with each other alot of us struggle with thoughtfulness in our relationships. Some of us can focus on one thing but totally forget our spouse. We tend to do things that benefit us only and overlook the real important areas in our life.

Some of us can be multi tasks cooking, taking care of kids, do the house work and work full time, then we end up being mad why our spouse cant do the same to help. Genesis 2:18 It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him a helper suitable for him. These ways of thinking create misunderstanding in relationships. God wants to show us how to meet each others needs.

     Its real important in a relationship to express to each other what we are thinking, express our thoughts to each other in a loving way. Husbands and wife's long for the other to be thoughtful. Thoughtful is one major key to feel love. Your spouse can not read your mind. You have to let them know what your thinking to get your point across. Alot of couples have misunderstandings because the other spouse takes it for granted that they expect they know what the other person is thinking. That doesn't mean you say one thing and mean another, you have to say what you mean.

     Marriage is work, Marriages are not easy, anyone that says they have  a perfect marriage they are lieing to you. I don't know any one that has a perfect marriage and I know alot of people. I do know people though who are working on thier marriages and  families that God has restored an aligned them to be those examples to the Body of Christ, to bring hope to a world who is hurting for marriages to work.

     Take some time in your day to think thoughts of love to try to better understand and show some love to your spouse . Think about a need that needs to be met in their life, that might help in being a help to them. Think about the next big event in your life that they have, that you can show them you were thinking about them (Anniversary, holiday, birthday).

     Great marriages come from thoughtful thinking.