Love is Patient

     Love does work. Life depends on love to be activated in our family. When we are born, we are born with a thirst for love. Working in a prison, when a inmate has a baby they allow that inmate to stay with that child as long as it can because they know how important it is for that baby to have that parent love an comfort that baby. That's why there are laws for maturity leave for 6 months, for working mothers, so that mothers can bond with their child, with its love. Our lives need it like oxygen is needed to breath. Love changes everything in our life about living. No family or marriage is successful without it.

     Patience and kindness are the two pillars love is built on. Out of patience and kindness, all other extensions of characteristics of love will flow out these two acts.
    
      When you have love you will become a patient person. You can respond in negative situations in a positive way when you have patience. You can become slow to anger, when you have love. You choose to have a long fuse instead of a short fuse. It helps you to become calm and also prevents you from  controlling and acting out in a demanding way,  to help you to  have mercy for those people around you. It brings a calm to your storm.

     Alot of people do not like to be around impatient people. It will cause you to act different , angry, foolish, and in  a regrettable way  that you might regret later. Being angry never makes a situation better. I believe it creates more problems when you stay angry. Being patient stops problems in their track. Its almost like biting your tongue and putting your hand over your mouth. It stops alot of unnecessary things to happen into the atmosphere. It brings about a positive energy around you, instead of negative. It clears the air. It is a choice that you have to control your emotions. Also for returning evil for evil. You have a choice whether you want to act out in Love.

     When your husband or wife offends you, do you quickly retaliate or do you stay under patience with your tongue? Is anger the response that you give to the situation? If so then you are creating poison rather then Love.

      Anger is usually a result of disappointment and grief. You don't seem to be getting what you think that you want, so you start getting angry inside. This reaction is created from your own selfishness, foolishness, or wrong motives in your heart.

     Patience makes us think before we act. It doesn't react to fast  but listens to what the other person is saying before responding back. Patience waits to accept the whole picture before responding to a situation in a negative way. The Bible says, " He who is slow to anger has a great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly" (Proverbs 14:29).

     With not using patience in in your home or marriage, it will turn into a battle at times in your house. Practicing patience will bring about peace, quiet and a sense of balance and boundaries in your family. "a hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but the slow to anger calms a dispute" (Proverbs 15:18) Patience is where the rubber meets the road so every marriage and home can be healthy.

     When we use patience in our life it allows us to be human. Everyone makes mistakes in this area of their life. When we realize a mistake, the good part is we can correct it. We have the ability to hold on in tough times instead of bailing out when something is not right in our life. We always can say those simple words I am sorry or please forgive me. I will try to make things better next time. We learn from our mistakes.

     We as husband and wives need to be able to count on each other to have patience in each others life. We both need to take the time to look at one another and have patience for each other, and sometimes give each other a break in the small things of life. We are to be those examples to our children also. What our children see and hear will be the same example that they to will use in there conversations with there friends and there relationships around them. I love that saying,  "don't sweat the small stuff." Life is too short, enjoy your family and be happy. You have that choice.

     Try practicing the biblical approach in your home. See how it will change the atmosphere and the love that you have for each other in your house. (1Thessalonians 5:15) "See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek that which is good for one another."

     A good starting point to creating a atmosphere of love in your home is to pursue to demonstrate as a key ingredient, Patience and Kindness toward each other in your family.