Love is Kind

Ephesians 4:32  Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

     When you act out of kindness you are displaying love in action.  When you use patience in your life it displays love and minimizes negative situations in your life.  By using kindness in your life it displays love to maximize positive situations in your life. By using patience in your life it avoids problems to happen, while kindness creates blessings to happen in your life. One is preventive and the other is proactive, its like a magnet of energy creating a force around you. Patience and kindness are the two attributes that love is built on.

     When you have Love inside of you, it makes you kind to people around you. Having kindness in your life make it so people also like you, and makes it so people want to be around you. People notice that you are being  good to them and good for them.

     Proverbs 3:3-4 Do not let kindness and truth leave you, bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.

     When you are kind to people, favor follows you around where ever you go.

     There are four basic things that come in terms of following kindness in your life, they are gentleness, helpfulness, willingness, and initiative.

     Gentleness. When you act out of kindness you are aware of the way you treat your spouse, children and even relationships in your life.  Never acting in a harsh manner. You are aware of the other persons needs. Your sensitive in how you treat them. Even when you need to say something to correct or disciple when it comes to raising children, you choose your words wisely not to offend but sweet words of not trying to cause a division or strife. You want to always speak the truth along in love.

     Helpfulness. When your kind, you meet others needs for that moment. In a family their are lots of needs to be met, housework, lawn work, financial, kids need rides to after school activities. I know in our family dinner is a special time for us to allow the family to sit down and listen to the days events, of what took place in all our life's as my daughter would go to school and my husband and I would work. Each one of us have a need to be heard, or even to speak if something was bothering us for the day. Some times our needs get put on hold to meet one of the other needs in our family, thats what helpfulness is all about.

     Willingness.  When you act out of kindness it allows us to be agreeable instead of not cooperating.  It helps you to stay flexible and also allows you to flow in the spirit with what is going on in that moment. Rather then complaining and making excuses, when you act out of willingness to be kind , you are acting in a way to accommodate the husband, wife or children in your home so that needs are being met. Kind husbands and wife's end alot of problems by being willing to listen and then be helpful by acts of kindness, rather then demanding their own way of doing things.

     Initiative. Your always thinking ahead when you are kind. You don't sit around waiting to do something for yourself or others around you. The kind husband or wife will always be the first one to say good morning, give a kiss good-bye or hello, serves first, buys flowers for no reason, or a card just to say I'm thinking of you, calls home to say I just called to say I love you. Kindness always make the first initiative first before the other.


     Kindness was one of the things that drew you and your husband together in the first place. When you married you thought you were going to enjoy this kindness from each other for the rest of you life. Is it still in your life? If not where did it go, its a choice. Years can go by where you may have lost that kindness for each other but you can bring it back into your life by allow yourself to put your needs aside and acts of your kindness will bring that spark of love back into your life, if you make that choice of following after kindness. Don't wait for your spouse or your relationships in your life to be kind first.

     It can be hard to act out of love when you may have had no motivation to do so. When you act out to love someone, love in it truest sense is not based on our feelings. When you learn to show kindness to others you will learn to love. God is love.