Dear Friends and Family,
The time of celebration is near as we mark off each day on the calendar leading up to Christmas. It is time for us to rejoice in the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, His life, and His ultimate sacrifice for us all.
I ask that you take the time to revel in the presence of friends and family. Enjoy the company of your brothers and sisters in Christ and share His love with all of His children. Reach out to those who are less fortunate; this season can be a difficult time for some to cope with. They may need our comfort and guidance to keep them on their path with God. As He provides for us, we should provide for others.
Be blessed in your lives. Healed Without Scars Ministry would like to wish you and your Family a very Happy Christmas and a joyously New Year!
Yours in Christ,
Anthony and Sharon Signorino
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Sunday, December 4, 2011
The Elephant In The Room
Most people have heard the term, “The Elephant in the Room”. It usually refers to something that is so obvious but ignored by many. The Elephant in the room is an English metaphorical idiom for an obvious truth that is being ignored or goes unaddressed. It is based on the idea that an elephant in a room would be impossible to overlook; thus, people in the room who pretend the elephant is not there have chosen to avoid dealing with the looming big issue.
As I thought about the elephant in the room, I couldn’t help but think of the “Elephant Within”. That’s the Big Dream, Desire, Idea, Calling and Goal that many people have wandering on the inside of them. I believe it’s a symbol of what we can become but many people have chosen to ignore this giant elephant because of what they are not.
Let me explain…
Many of our Big Dreams are much bigger than what we have become in the present. It doesn’t mean we haven’t accomplished great things yet, it simply means that we have the potential to become more and accomplish greater things.
You will only reach your dream when you let it become like the resounding blast of an elephant’s trunk that wakes you up everyday with the possibility of making it happen.
Here’s a few tips on Facing the Elephant Within.
1. Don’t be afraid by it’s size.
If the elephant is within you then know that you have what it takes to lead and guide it to its destination. It must be bigger than you, otherwise anyone could do it. If your bigger than your elephant then its not much of a dream.
2. Don’t make the mistake of thinking your elephant is for someone else.
It’s within you because it is for you. It’s your dream. It’s your goal. It’s your desire. You can and will accomplish it.
3. Don’t tie your elephant down with small minded thinking.
When elephants are young their keepers tie one of their legs to a chain that is anchored by a concrete beam several feet underneath the ground. The elephant tries with all its might to free itself but is never able to. When they are older, the concrete beam is replaced by a small wooden stake in the ground. You would think that a full grown elephant could easily remove the stake without any effort, however, it chooses to remain tied to a small wooden stake in the ground. The truth is that a full grown elephant could easily pull up the stake without any effort but their minds have become conditioned by “I can’t” instead of “I Can”. Because of past experiences of defeat that elephant will allow itself to be tied down by something so small in the present.
As I thought about the elephant in the room, I couldn’t help but think of the “Elephant Within”. That’s the Big Dream, Desire, Idea, Calling and Goal that many people have wandering on the inside of them. I believe it’s a symbol of what we can become but many people have chosen to ignore this giant elephant because of what they are not.
Let me explain…
Many of our Big Dreams are much bigger than what we have become in the present. It doesn’t mean we haven’t accomplished great things yet, it simply means that we have the potential to become more and accomplish greater things.
You will only reach your dream when you let it become like the resounding blast of an elephant’s trunk that wakes you up everyday with the possibility of making it happen.
Here’s a few tips on Facing the Elephant Within.
1. Don’t be afraid by it’s size.
If the elephant is within you then know that you have what it takes to lead and guide it to its destination. It must be bigger than you, otherwise anyone could do it. If your bigger than your elephant then its not much of a dream.
2. Don’t make the mistake of thinking your elephant is for someone else.
It’s within you because it is for you. It’s your dream. It’s your goal. It’s your desire. You can and will accomplish it.
3. Don’t tie your elephant down with small minded thinking.
When elephants are young their keepers tie one of their legs to a chain that is anchored by a concrete beam several feet underneath the ground. The elephant tries with all its might to free itself but is never able to. When they are older, the concrete beam is replaced by a small wooden stake in the ground. You would think that a full grown elephant could easily remove the stake without any effort, however, it chooses to remain tied to a small wooden stake in the ground. The truth is that a full grown elephant could easily pull up the stake without any effort but their minds have become conditioned by “I can’t” instead of “I Can”. Because of past experiences of defeat that elephant will allow itself to be tied down by something so small in the present.
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Love Is Thoughtful
Psalm 139:17-18 How precious also are your thoughts to me. How vast is the sum of them. If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.
Thinking is Love. Love is not emotions that just come out of the blue. Love is busy with thoughts of thinking on how I am going to act to show love to other people.
When you first met your husband or wife you spent hours on thinking about that person, it became so easy, because you were so in love with them. As you think back on those moments of your first years with each other, I bet you could remember there were times that you had said, I can't stop thinking about you."
As time, work, kids, go on, things begin to change in each of your life. You now have your husband and your wife and the hunt is over and the impressing each other tends to die down. Can you say that in some of your marriages the spark has died and the thought for love is sometimes only thought about between cleaning the house or doing the dishes , changing the diapers, driving the kids to sports or school, or husbands tend to work over time or even work late, coming home tired and ends up watching TV for entertainment instead of spending time with the spouse or family over dinner. You both start to focus on your own personal desires instead thoughts of love for each other.
Adding children to this life of thoughts. Your thinking changes from being surprised instead of being thoughtful.
Did you know tomorrow is our Anniversary? Who was that, why didn't you introduce me? You always think about yourself? You know, my world, doesn't revolve around you? These are just a few of the comments that were said in our life before we started bringing alignment in our life. Don't laugh because I know you have a few to share from yours. I'm just being real here, transparent. God does have a divine plan to make things right.
When your not thoughtful in your love one to another you end up missing divine opportunities with your mate. One of the biggest enemy to a relationship is thoughtfulness in love.
Lets get honest with each other alot of us struggle with thoughtfulness in our relationships. Some of us can focus on one thing but totally forget our spouse. We tend to do things that benefit us only and overlook the real important areas in our life.
Some of us can be multi tasks cooking, taking care of kids, do the house work and work full time, then we end up being mad why our spouse cant do the same to help. Genesis 2:18 It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him a helper suitable for him. These ways of thinking create misunderstanding in relationships. God wants to show us how to meet each others needs.
Its real important in a relationship to express to each other what we are thinking, express our thoughts to each other in a loving way. Husbands and wife's long for the other to be thoughtful. Thoughtful is one major key to feel love. Your spouse can not read your mind. You have to let them know what your thinking to get your point across. Alot of couples have misunderstandings because the other spouse takes it for granted that they expect they know what the other person is thinking. That doesn't mean you say one thing and mean another, you have to say what you mean.
Marriage is work, Marriages are not easy, anyone that says they have a perfect marriage they are lieing to you. I don't know any one that has a perfect marriage and I know alot of people. I do know people though who are working on thier marriages and families that God has restored an aligned them to be those examples to the Body of Christ, to bring hope to a world who is hurting for marriages to work.
Take some time in your day to think thoughts of love to try to better understand and show some love to your spouse . Think about a need that needs to be met in their life, that might help in being a help to them. Think about the next big event in your life that they have, that you can show them you were thinking about them (Anniversary, holiday, birthday).
Great marriages come from thoughtful thinking.
Thinking is Love. Love is not emotions that just come out of the blue. Love is busy with thoughts of thinking on how I am going to act to show love to other people.
When you first met your husband or wife you spent hours on thinking about that person, it became so easy, because you were so in love with them. As you think back on those moments of your first years with each other, I bet you could remember there were times that you had said, I can't stop thinking about you."
As time, work, kids, go on, things begin to change in each of your life. You now have your husband and your wife and the hunt is over and the impressing each other tends to die down. Can you say that in some of your marriages the spark has died and the thought for love is sometimes only thought about between cleaning the house or doing the dishes , changing the diapers, driving the kids to sports or school, or husbands tend to work over time or even work late, coming home tired and ends up watching TV for entertainment instead of spending time with the spouse or family over dinner. You both start to focus on your own personal desires instead thoughts of love for each other.
Adding children to this life of thoughts. Your thinking changes from being surprised instead of being thoughtful.
Did you know tomorrow is our Anniversary? Who was that, why didn't you introduce me? You always think about yourself? You know, my world, doesn't revolve around you? These are just a few of the comments that were said in our life before we started bringing alignment in our life. Don't laugh because I know you have a few to share from yours. I'm just being real here, transparent. God does have a divine plan to make things right.
When your not thoughtful in your love one to another you end up missing divine opportunities with your mate. One of the biggest enemy to a relationship is thoughtfulness in love.
Lets get honest with each other alot of us struggle with thoughtfulness in our relationships. Some of us can focus on one thing but totally forget our spouse. We tend to do things that benefit us only and overlook the real important areas in our life.
Some of us can be multi tasks cooking, taking care of kids, do the house work and work full time, then we end up being mad why our spouse cant do the same to help. Genesis 2:18 It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him a helper suitable for him. These ways of thinking create misunderstanding in relationships. God wants to show us how to meet each others needs.
Its real important in a relationship to express to each other what we are thinking, express our thoughts to each other in a loving way. Husbands and wife's long for the other to be thoughtful. Thoughtful is one major key to feel love. Your spouse can not read your mind. You have to let them know what your thinking to get your point across. Alot of couples have misunderstandings because the other spouse takes it for granted that they expect they know what the other person is thinking. That doesn't mean you say one thing and mean another, you have to say what you mean.
Marriage is work, Marriages are not easy, anyone that says they have a perfect marriage they are lieing to you. I don't know any one that has a perfect marriage and I know alot of people. I do know people though who are working on thier marriages and families that God has restored an aligned them to be those examples to the Body of Christ, to bring hope to a world who is hurting for marriages to work.
Take some time in your day to think thoughts of love to try to better understand and show some love to your spouse . Think about a need that needs to be met in their life, that might help in being a help to them. Think about the next big event in your life that they have, that you can show them you were thinking about them (Anniversary, holiday, birthday).
Great marriages come from thoughtful thinking.
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Love is not selfish
Romans 12:10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love, give preference to one another in honor.
This world that we live in is very self centered. We base our standards of living in this country on our looks, how we feel, our jobs, how much money we have and even our own personal desires in what we want to have in life. This country base there life on achieving the highest level of how to please our flesh and what can we do for me and make me happy. When we become married if we think this way, we bring this kind of thinking into our marriages and our families, which can create problems in our relationship with each other and also how we raise our children.
Selfishness is the opposite of Love. This selfishness is ingrained into each and everyone of us when we were born. When children misbehave they are acting out of selfishness. Husbands and wives also act out in their marriage by mistreating each other. If you think about it, almost every sinful act that has happen in the bible or today in this world or the generations to come, have been brought about by a selfish motive.
By putting no standards on our self and high standard on our husband or wife or relationships, we are actually being selfish..
When a husband or wife puts his things that he wants to do in life before their spouses, that is a sure sign of being selfish. When a husband or wife have a habit of complaining about putting their time and energy into the needs of their spouses, they are being selfish. You really have to meet each other half way, and give to each, and put your needs above the other.
1 Corinthians 13:5 But Love does not seek its own.
When you talk about true love in a marriage you look for ways to say Yes in a marriage. You look for ways of pleasing your spouse. I heard a saying about work, work as you work on to the Lord. Well I say Love as you Love unto the Lord with your marriage, with your children, with the relationships you have in your life.
The funny thing about acts of love though, you can even be selfish with your acts of love, if you want love back, or you need to have bragging rights that you were loving, its really is a matter of the heart. What is your motive. True love is based out of a heart of sincere love and the only way you can really develop this is the more time you spend with God your father, the more you become like him. Your either coming out of a pure love for others through the heart of God or your coming out of love through a heart of selfishness.
It can be really hard to come out of love for your spouse or relationships around you in your life, because it will cause you to say no to your desires and yes to what they need. Your putting the happiness of others before your needs. I've notice in my own life when I put others before me, out of a right motive not expecting nothing in return, what it does is people love and appreciate you more. The seeds I have planted in other people lives of love have been over and above in my life. It creates a atmosphere of love and appreciation around me when I love others, people can feel that you are really loving them and they want to be loved. Everyone whats to be loved.
Who does not want to have love in there life? It creates a peace and a joy inside of you. When you start to love your mate and your children and the relationships around you, what actually happens is you create atmosphere of greater purpose. You are establishing the will of God right here in this earth, paradise as it was to be intended.
Your spouse is the one person in your life that knows you the best. When you start displaying this change in your life, that you didn't act before. When the relationships in your life start noticing a change
those relationships also change for the better. When you change, people also change around you.
People in your life are watching you, weather you know this or not. You have a reputation. At one time in my life, I was a very selfish unloving person. If you ask those that are closest to me. I have changed a great deal by developing my relationship with my God (Father). As I drew close to him, I developed a love for my husband and a deeper love for my daughter. I wanted love in my life, so I started to give it as my Father filled me more and more. I became more fulfilled when I started to demonstrate real love to them, and in turn they saw the change in me, and love me even more.
Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.
This world that we live in is very self centered. We base our standards of living in this country on our looks, how we feel, our jobs, how much money we have and even our own personal desires in what we want to have in life. This country base there life on achieving the highest level of how to please our flesh and what can we do for me and make me happy. When we become married if we think this way, we bring this kind of thinking into our marriages and our families, which can create problems in our relationship with each other and also how we raise our children.
Selfishness is the opposite of Love. This selfishness is ingrained into each and everyone of us when we were born. When children misbehave they are acting out of selfishness. Husbands and wives also act out in their marriage by mistreating each other. If you think about it, almost every sinful act that has happen in the bible or today in this world or the generations to come, have been brought about by a selfish motive.
By putting no standards on our self and high standard on our husband or wife or relationships, we are actually being selfish..
When a husband or wife puts his things that he wants to do in life before their spouses, that is a sure sign of being selfish. When a husband or wife have a habit of complaining about putting their time and energy into the needs of their spouses, they are being selfish. You really have to meet each other half way, and give to each, and put your needs above the other.
1 Corinthians 13:5 But Love does not seek its own.
When you talk about true love in a marriage you look for ways to say Yes in a marriage. You look for ways of pleasing your spouse. I heard a saying about work, work as you work on to the Lord. Well I say Love as you Love unto the Lord with your marriage, with your children, with the relationships you have in your life.
The funny thing about acts of love though, you can even be selfish with your acts of love, if you want love back, or you need to have bragging rights that you were loving, its really is a matter of the heart. What is your motive. True love is based out of a heart of sincere love and the only way you can really develop this is the more time you spend with God your father, the more you become like him. Your either coming out of a pure love for others through the heart of God or your coming out of love through a heart of selfishness.
It can be really hard to come out of love for your spouse or relationships around you in your life, because it will cause you to say no to your desires and yes to what they need. Your putting the happiness of others before your needs. I've notice in my own life when I put others before me, out of a right motive not expecting nothing in return, what it does is people love and appreciate you more. The seeds I have planted in other people lives of love have been over and above in my life. It creates a atmosphere of love and appreciation around me when I love others, people can feel that you are really loving them and they want to be loved. Everyone whats to be loved.
Who does not want to have love in there life? It creates a peace and a joy inside of you. When you start to love your mate and your children and the relationships around you, what actually happens is you create atmosphere of greater purpose. You are establishing the will of God right here in this earth, paradise as it was to be intended.
Your spouse is the one person in your life that knows you the best. When you start displaying this change in your life, that you didn't act before. When the relationships in your life start noticing a change
those relationships also change for the better. When you change, people also change around you.
People in your life are watching you, weather you know this or not. You have a reputation. At one time in my life, I was a very selfish unloving person. If you ask those that are closest to me. I have changed a great deal by developing my relationship with my God (Father). As I drew close to him, I developed a love for my husband and a deeper love for my daughter. I wanted love in my life, so I started to give it as my Father filled me more and more. I became more fulfilled when I started to demonstrate real love to them, and in turn they saw the change in me, and love me even more.
Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Love is Kind
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.
When you act out of kindness you are displaying love in action. When you use patience in your life it displays love and minimizes negative situations in your life. By using kindness in your life it displays love to maximize positive situations in your life. By using patience in your life it avoids problems to happen, while kindness creates blessings to happen in your life. One is preventive and the other is proactive, its like a magnet of energy creating a force around you. Patience and kindness are the two attributes that love is built on.
When you have Love inside of you, it makes you kind to people around you. Having kindness in your life make it so people also like you, and makes it so people want to be around you. People notice that you are being good to them and good for them.
Proverbs 3:3-4 Do not let kindness and truth leave you, bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.
When you are kind to people, favor follows you around where ever you go.
There are four basic things that come in terms of following kindness in your life, they are gentleness, helpfulness, willingness, and initiative.
Gentleness. When you act out of kindness you are aware of the way you treat your spouse, children and even relationships in your life. Never acting in a harsh manner. You are aware of the other persons needs. Your sensitive in how you treat them. Even when you need to say something to correct or disciple when it comes to raising children, you choose your words wisely not to offend but sweet words of not trying to cause a division or strife. You want to always speak the truth along in love.
Helpfulness. When your kind, you meet others needs for that moment. In a family their are lots of needs to be met, housework, lawn work, financial, kids need rides to after school activities. I know in our family dinner is a special time for us to allow the family to sit down and listen to the days events, of what took place in all our life's as my daughter would go to school and my husband and I would work. Each one of us have a need to be heard, or even to speak if something was bothering us for the day. Some times our needs get put on hold to meet one of the other needs in our family, thats what helpfulness is all about.
Willingness. When you act out of kindness it allows us to be agreeable instead of not cooperating. It helps you to stay flexible and also allows you to flow in the spirit with what is going on in that moment. Rather then complaining and making excuses, when you act out of willingness to be kind , you are acting in a way to accommodate the husband, wife or children in your home so that needs are being met. Kind husbands and wife's end alot of problems by being willing to listen and then be helpful by acts of kindness, rather then demanding their own way of doing things.
Initiative. Your always thinking ahead when you are kind. You don't sit around waiting to do something for yourself or others around you. The kind husband or wife will always be the first one to say good morning, give a kiss good-bye or hello, serves first, buys flowers for no reason, or a card just to say I'm thinking of you, calls home to say I just called to say I love you. Kindness always make the first initiative first before the other.
Kindness was one of the things that drew you and your husband together in the first place. When you married you thought you were going to enjoy this kindness from each other for the rest of you life. Is it still in your life? If not where did it go, its a choice. Years can go by where you may have lost that kindness for each other but you can bring it back into your life by allow yourself to put your needs aside and acts of your kindness will bring that spark of love back into your life, if you make that choice of following after kindness. Don't wait for your spouse or your relationships in your life to be kind first.
It can be hard to act out of love when you may have had no motivation to do so. When you act out to love someone, love in it truest sense is not based on our feelings. When you learn to show kindness to others you will learn to love. God is love.
When you act out of kindness you are displaying love in action. When you use patience in your life it displays love and minimizes negative situations in your life. By using kindness in your life it displays love to maximize positive situations in your life. By using patience in your life it avoids problems to happen, while kindness creates blessings to happen in your life. One is preventive and the other is proactive, its like a magnet of energy creating a force around you. Patience and kindness are the two attributes that love is built on.
When you have Love inside of you, it makes you kind to people around you. Having kindness in your life make it so people also like you, and makes it so people want to be around you. People notice that you are being good to them and good for them.
Proverbs 3:3-4 Do not let kindness and truth leave you, bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.
When you are kind to people, favor follows you around where ever you go.
There are four basic things that come in terms of following kindness in your life, they are gentleness, helpfulness, willingness, and initiative.
Gentleness. When you act out of kindness you are aware of the way you treat your spouse, children and even relationships in your life. Never acting in a harsh manner. You are aware of the other persons needs. Your sensitive in how you treat them. Even when you need to say something to correct or disciple when it comes to raising children, you choose your words wisely not to offend but sweet words of not trying to cause a division or strife. You want to always speak the truth along in love.
Helpfulness. When your kind, you meet others needs for that moment. In a family their are lots of needs to be met, housework, lawn work, financial, kids need rides to after school activities. I know in our family dinner is a special time for us to allow the family to sit down and listen to the days events, of what took place in all our life's as my daughter would go to school and my husband and I would work. Each one of us have a need to be heard, or even to speak if something was bothering us for the day. Some times our needs get put on hold to meet one of the other needs in our family, thats what helpfulness is all about.
Willingness. When you act out of kindness it allows us to be agreeable instead of not cooperating. It helps you to stay flexible and also allows you to flow in the spirit with what is going on in that moment. Rather then complaining and making excuses, when you act out of willingness to be kind , you are acting in a way to accommodate the husband, wife or children in your home so that needs are being met. Kind husbands and wife's end alot of problems by being willing to listen and then be helpful by acts of kindness, rather then demanding their own way of doing things.
Initiative. Your always thinking ahead when you are kind. You don't sit around waiting to do something for yourself or others around you. The kind husband or wife will always be the first one to say good morning, give a kiss good-bye or hello, serves first, buys flowers for no reason, or a card just to say I'm thinking of you, calls home to say I just called to say I love you. Kindness always make the first initiative first before the other.
Kindness was one of the things that drew you and your husband together in the first place. When you married you thought you were going to enjoy this kindness from each other for the rest of you life. Is it still in your life? If not where did it go, its a choice. Years can go by where you may have lost that kindness for each other but you can bring it back into your life by allow yourself to put your needs aside and acts of your kindness will bring that spark of love back into your life, if you make that choice of following after kindness. Don't wait for your spouse or your relationships in your life to be kind first.
It can be hard to act out of love when you may have had no motivation to do so. When you act out to love someone, love in it truest sense is not based on our feelings. When you learn to show kindness to others you will learn to love. God is love.
Love is Patient
Love does work. Life depends on love to be activated in our family. When we are born, we are born with a thirst for love. Working in a prison, when a inmate has a baby they allow that inmate to stay with that child as long as it can because they know how important it is for that baby to have that parent love an comfort that baby. That's why there are laws for maturity leave for 6 months, for working mothers, so that mothers can bond with their child, with its love. Our lives need it like oxygen is needed to breath. Love changes everything in our life about living. No family or marriage is successful without it.
Patience and kindness are the two pillars love is built on. Out of patience and kindness, all other extensions of characteristics of love will flow out these two acts.
When you have love you will become a patient person. You can respond in negative situations in a positive way when you have patience. You can become slow to anger, when you have love. You choose to have a long fuse instead of a short fuse. It helps you to become calm and also prevents you from controlling and acting out in a demanding way, to help you to have mercy for those people around you. It brings a calm to your storm.
Alot of people do not like to be around impatient people. It will cause you to act different , angry, foolish, and in a regrettable way that you might regret later. Being angry never makes a situation better. I believe it creates more problems when you stay angry. Being patient stops problems in their track. Its almost like biting your tongue and putting your hand over your mouth. It stops alot of unnecessary things to happen into the atmosphere. It brings about a positive energy around you, instead of negative. It clears the air. It is a choice that you have to control your emotions. Also for returning evil for evil. You have a choice whether you want to act out in Love.
When your husband or wife offends you, do you quickly retaliate or do you stay under patience with your tongue? Is anger the response that you give to the situation? If so then you are creating poison rather then Love.
Anger is usually a result of disappointment and grief. You don't seem to be getting what you think that you want, so you start getting angry inside. This reaction is created from your own selfishness, foolishness, or wrong motives in your heart.
Patience makes us think before we act. It doesn't react to fast but listens to what the other person is saying before responding back. Patience waits to accept the whole picture before responding to a situation in a negative way. The Bible says, " He who is slow to anger has a great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly" (Proverbs 14:29).
With not using patience in in your home or marriage, it will turn into a battle at times in your house. Practicing patience will bring about peace, quiet and a sense of balance and boundaries in your family. "a hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but the slow to anger calms a dispute" (Proverbs 15:18) Patience is where the rubber meets the road so every marriage and home can be healthy.
When we use patience in our life it allows us to be human. Everyone makes mistakes in this area of their life. When we realize a mistake, the good part is we can correct it. We have the ability to hold on in tough times instead of bailing out when something is not right in our life. We always can say those simple words I am sorry or please forgive me. I will try to make things better next time. We learn from our mistakes.
We as husband and wives need to be able to count on each other to have patience in each others life. We both need to take the time to look at one another and have patience for each other, and sometimes give each other a break in the small things of life. We are to be those examples to our children also. What our children see and hear will be the same example that they to will use in there conversations with there friends and there relationships around them. I love that saying, "don't sweat the small stuff." Life is too short, enjoy your family and be happy. You have that choice.
Try practicing the biblical approach in your home. See how it will change the atmosphere and the love that you have for each other in your house. (1Thessalonians 5:15) "See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek that which is good for one another."
A good starting point to creating a atmosphere of love in your home is to pursue to demonstrate as a key ingredient, Patience and Kindness toward each other in your family.
Patience and kindness are the two pillars love is built on. Out of patience and kindness, all other extensions of characteristics of love will flow out these two acts.
When you have love you will become a patient person. You can respond in negative situations in a positive way when you have patience. You can become slow to anger, when you have love. You choose to have a long fuse instead of a short fuse. It helps you to become calm and also prevents you from controlling and acting out in a demanding way, to help you to have mercy for those people around you. It brings a calm to your storm.
Alot of people do not like to be around impatient people. It will cause you to act different , angry, foolish, and in a regrettable way that you might regret later. Being angry never makes a situation better. I believe it creates more problems when you stay angry. Being patient stops problems in their track. Its almost like biting your tongue and putting your hand over your mouth. It stops alot of unnecessary things to happen into the atmosphere. It brings about a positive energy around you, instead of negative. It clears the air. It is a choice that you have to control your emotions. Also for returning evil for evil. You have a choice whether you want to act out in Love.
When your husband or wife offends you, do you quickly retaliate or do you stay under patience with your tongue? Is anger the response that you give to the situation? If so then you are creating poison rather then Love.
Anger is usually a result of disappointment and grief. You don't seem to be getting what you think that you want, so you start getting angry inside. This reaction is created from your own selfishness, foolishness, or wrong motives in your heart.
Patience makes us think before we act. It doesn't react to fast but listens to what the other person is saying before responding back. Patience waits to accept the whole picture before responding to a situation in a negative way. The Bible says, " He who is slow to anger has a great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly" (Proverbs 14:29).
With not using patience in in your home or marriage, it will turn into a battle at times in your house. Practicing patience will bring about peace, quiet and a sense of balance and boundaries in your family. "a hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but the slow to anger calms a dispute" (Proverbs 15:18) Patience is where the rubber meets the road so every marriage and home can be healthy.
When we use patience in our life it allows us to be human. Everyone makes mistakes in this area of their life. When we realize a mistake, the good part is we can correct it. We have the ability to hold on in tough times instead of bailing out when something is not right in our life. We always can say those simple words I am sorry or please forgive me. I will try to make things better next time. We learn from our mistakes.
We as husband and wives need to be able to count on each other to have patience in each others life. We both need to take the time to look at one another and have patience for each other, and sometimes give each other a break in the small things of life. We are to be those examples to our children also. What our children see and hear will be the same example that they to will use in there conversations with there friends and there relationships around them. I love that saying, "don't sweat the small stuff." Life is too short, enjoy your family and be happy. You have that choice.
Try practicing the biblical approach in your home. See how it will change the atmosphere and the love that you have for each other in your house. (1Thessalonians 5:15) "See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek that which is good for one another."
A good starting point to creating a atmosphere of love in your home is to pursue to demonstrate as a key ingredient, Patience and Kindness toward each other in your family.
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